Now, over time, that egg is bound to get a tiny little crack.
After all, we live busy lives.
We spend a lot of energy on other people, to the point of sometimes feeling guilty about taking care of ourselves.
Taking care of ourselves is important.
See, it's a problem when we ignore what we need.
It is an even bigger problem when that egg starts to crack, and we choose to do nothing about it.
We don't want to worry anyone, and it starts so small that no one else notices anyway...
So we say nothing.
Every time we say we're fine when we're not, the crack gets bigger.
Now, this is not a normal bird-egg.
This is a person-egg.
See, this egg has layers.
This is part of why we tend to ignore the cracks.
Different people and different situations means a different amount of layers, so it can be difficult to tell how many you have to begin with.
Most of us overestimate the amount we have.
How fast these layers chip away depends on your overall mental health, stress level, daily activities, friends and supports...
And if you aren't careful...
Eventually, you'll just be holding the yolk.
It slips through fingers until you can't pretend anymore.
This is totally fixable.
First, pick up what you can of that yolk.
This means taking a step back to breathe.
Think about what is happening in your life.
Do not think about how to solve the world's problems.
Just think about the things you are doing, and then attempt to put those "things" in a box to the side.
You'll deal with them later.
Right now, they are mucking up the yolk.
Then, have friends/doctor/family hold the shell, while you gently pour it back in.
In other words:
ASK FOR HELP!
There is no shame in asking for assistance, and in some cases, asking for help can prevent such shedding of layers to begin with.
Once you've found someone to act as your assistant/partner/whatever, say what is going on.
Being honest will help the process go smoothly, as everyone will be on the same page with what you need.
Okay. Now that you have the yolk back in the shell, the next step is to patch it all up.
This is not about burying it!
This is about building yourself back up in a safe way, while putting in some outlets to help keep you healthy.
Take out a piece of paper and start writing.
Write what you need in your life.
This list can be as simple or as complicated as you like.
Next, write down what you actually need to do. Here is where you narrow down all that other crap.
Make sure to include daily things for health and hygiene.
Keep this one simple and to the point.
Talk about it with your assistant.
Next, write what you wish would happen.
This is a best case scenario.
Then, get more specific.
Write steps you can take (even little steps!) to get to where you want to be.
Talk about it.
This will place the words onto your egg to start the repairs.
Keep the list somewhere handy.
Next, get a new sheet of paper and write what makes you happy.
Do those things.
Think about why you enjoy them.
Do them again.
Playing games, meditating,
eating your favorite meal, drinking tea,
going outside, taking a hot bath…
These will act as another layer.
Now, this does not mean your egg will be as good as new.
That takes time.
The key thing is to repair enough in order to function again without feeling entirely overwhelmed.
The other half after that is maintaining some elements of self care, and remembering that you are a human being.
You are not a robot.
This is your life.
You are a person, and that is important.
Remember that you are not alone in this journey.
If at any point before, during, or after, you feel the need or simply want to talk to a counselor, don't be afraid to go ahead and do so.
People tend to think you have to already be in crisis to talk to a professional, but preventative medicine is important for your mind as well as your body.
Think of it like any other check up.
Be gentle with your egg.
Be good to yourself.